I remember one night, a couple of girls from the dorm
decided to go out to dinner. I decided I would invite these two girls that
lived diagonal from Kandice and I that I hadn’t really gotten a chance to know
to come. They all came and we had a wonderful time! After that night, I kept
running into one of the girls that lived diagonal from me that had come to dinner.
We still didn’t really know each other that well, so it was still that awkward
“hey how ya doing” passing in the dorm shower room and in the hall ways kind of
friend ship.
Well…Everyone….Meet Jessica Pate.
There was the one day I was feeling really down about who
knows what now, and I asked Jessica if she wanted to ride with me over to see
Devin and his friends. On the way over there, I completely broke down to her
and told her how I didn’t feel like I had found my place in college yet and
then she broke down and said she felt the same way! Hahaha Who knew God would
use two young emotional females to start up the beginning of a new and
wonderful friendship.
Since this day, the two of us have been inseparable. If we
aren’t together, people ask where the other one is. We are usually up to no
good and always looking for something to get into! Whether it be stealing a
dorm mate’s mattress, tying our neighbor’s door together so neither one could
get out, having a dance party to ourselves, stealing walnuts from Devin’s
neighbor’s house (sorryJ),
making our other roommate fake an arrest and ask Devin if he claimed her (yes
we had an officer help us with this), and many other things I should probably
not share with the world hahaha. There is never a dull moment. We decided we were going to live together in
an apartment after our freshman year. We have now been roommates for 3 years! I
can hardly believe that much time has passed!
Since we’ve been friends, we have seen each other experience
heart breaks, tragedies, celebrations, engagements, etc. What I have learned
from our friendship is that a good friend doesn’t always have to say the right
thing…they just need to be there. I personally have had a rollercoaster of
emotion over the past couple of years and she is one of the people who I
remember always being a constant friend.
While being at East Carolina, I did join a church in
Greenville. In the beginning of mine and Jessica’s friendship, God was never
the center of our life. We were mainly concerned with what we were going to do
Thursday-Saturday night. Throughout our time going to church together and
learning more about the gospel, God is now the center of both of our lives and
usually end up in deep discussions about God and the great works he has done in
our life and how we can better serve him. It is such a blessing to have a
friend who shares the same love for Christ as I do.
Our friendship is one that indescribable. Our jokes, not
many people would understand…Our talks are usually strange and you wouldn’t
follow…We can sit across the room from each other and one of us starts laughing
and we already know what the other is giggling at.
There are many friends that will come and go throughout
life…I am aware of this for it has already happened. But it is friendships like
this that are for life. Jessica is one of my bridesmaids and I can’t even
imagine my wedding day without her. She not only has a special place in my life
but also in Devin’s life. He looks at her as his little sister. Devin has been
a wonderful aid in helping Jessica find peace in a lot of aspects in her life.
We always say that Jessica is going to have to live right next door to us one
day because he doesn’t know what me and her are going to do without each other
hahaha (and because I’ll have to do her hair/make up every morning before she
goes to work).
I am forever grateful God puts such special people in my
life. I have prayed hard for a Godly group of friends and he has surely
provided as he said he would.
